Victor! Not victim!

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You go tell that devil he is a liar! (John 8:44)

It doesn’t matter what form he takes, he can come in like a friend or like a lover (2 Corinthians 11:14)  Everything hidden, every lie told, will be revealed (Mark 4:22) Because God watches after His children.

Even if the accusations he brings were true, do not fear, do not be intimidated, and do not back down. Because our God makes ALL things new! (2 Corinthians 5:17)

The devil always has a counterfeit. He knows Who you belong to, that is why he attacks you at your most vulnerable spot.

So, you dry those tears, you shake off the dust, and you get back in the race. God is not done yet. You are not a victim, you are a victor!

Yea, I preached this to myself this evening and thought I would share it with you, in case you needed to be reminded too.

 

My King, He is everything to me

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There is something about Third Day that makes me feel like I am home.

Click here to be blessed.

No matter what you are going through, things change, seasons change, people change…

But, He is ONE constant…

Who is this King of Glory that persues me with his love
And haunts me with each hearing of His softly spoken words
My conscience, a reminder of forgiveness that I need
Who is this King of Glory who offers it to me
Who is this King of angels, O blessed Prince of Peace
Revealing things of Heaven and all its mysteries
My spirit?s ever longing for His grace in which to stand
Who’s this King of glory, Son of God and son of man
His name is Jesus, precious Jesus
The Lord Almighty, the King of my heart
The King of glory
Who is this King of Glory with strength and majesty
And wisdom beyond measure, the graceous King of kings
the Lord of Earth and Heaven, the Creator of all things
Who is this King of Glory, He’s everything to me
The Lord of Earth and Heaven, the Creator of all things
He is the King of glory, He’s everything to me

12 Things To Do After The Break-Up

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OK, so it’s time to move on. You know it, he knows it, and to hold on would just be prolonging the pain and heartache.

I know, its sad and feels a little surreal. The person you loved and thought would always be there is no more. It is a strange feeling, isn’t it. Those sweet texts and phone calls, knowing someone is thinking about you and cares. The comfort in knowing you are not alone. But, sigh, I digress…

You had your last contact, last text, phone call, whatever… and now it is time to let go and move forward. But how to do that?

It is not easy, but it will get better. I promise.

  1. Delete his/her text from your phone. You do not need to keep reading them and analyzing his/her words. (Draw close to God) No need to dwell on the he said/she said. You may not have been able to control the outcome of your relationship, but you can control your thoughts. Take those thoughts captive!
  2. Block his/her number so they can’t contact you later and draw you back in. Trust me, anything that could have and should have been said should have been said already. After the good bye there is nothing more to be said. (Draw close to God) This is not be cruel or spiteful. This is setting boundaries and protecting yourself. And there will be no let down when you hear your phone and it is not them. Be honest, we all been there.
  3. Gather all the pictures, gifts, etc… put them in a box or bag and get them out of your sight. I recommend throwing them away or giving them to a charity (if someone else can use them).Now, I know it is not as easy as that. Get rid of them when you are ready. But, for now, get them out of your sight. (Draw close to God) Holding onto things that are not in your future will keep you stuck in the past.
  4. Write a letter to him/her. It doesn’t mean you have to send it. (Draw close to God) But you will get everything you want to say off your chest. In the big picture, does it really matter of he/she hears it? No. Because they are not in your life anymore.
  5. Get a new hobby, or pick back up on an old one. Do the things you enjoy. (Draw close to God) Remember, you were a person before you met him/her and you are still a person.
  6. Spend time with friends. the people who know you, care about you, and can help you laugh again. Laughter is a good medicine. (Draw close to God) It is good to have reminders there is life outside of the grief.
  7. Do NOT start dating again. Give yourself time to heal and to know yourself again. (Draw close to God) Nothing good will come of starting up another relationship when you are still grieving the loss of this one. Its OK to be single, do not confuse aloneness with lonlieness. Refer back to #6.
  8. If you get stuck in your grief, seek counseling. Talk with someone. (Draw close to God) We all need help sometimes.
  9. Do Not stalk them. There is no need to check on them to see who they are talking to or what they are saying. It is really none of your business anymore. (Draw close to God) It does not matter what they are doing or who they are doing it with. He/she is not in your future. It will hinder your healing. Let it go.
  10. Be kind to yourself. Eat well, get exercise, get outside. (Draw close to God) Get dressed up for you. Take yourself on dates, go to the movies, or dinner, or whatever gives you joy. Live life!
  11. Forgive him/her. Truly. This is the key to freedom. Speak a blessing over them. (Draw close to God) Ask God to bless them. The ultimate blessing would be they also draw close to God. Trust, this will begin to heal your heart more than you can imagine. One day you will wake up and find they are not the first person on your mind. Your life will begin again and you will be able to breathe again.
  12. Speak truth over yourself (Draw close to God) Remind yourself what His Word says about you. You are His beloved.

Through it all, draw close to God. He is the Only One Who can truly heal you. He will take those pieces of your broken heart and put it back together again and He will breathe life into you.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds [healing their pain and comforting their sorrow]. Psalm 147:3

You are someone. You are beautiful. You are loved.

 

Let It Go

I found this meme on facebook, from a site called changing lives. It is a simple sentence, most would think a no-brainer, but let me tell ya…

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Even when you know it is time to go, there is always a sting when it ends. Because when they walk away you question everything,

  • Was it me?
  • What did I do wrong?
  • Did they really love me?

Then you get stuck, re-play every conversation in your head, every word they spoke and how true it sounded,

  • Surely it can’t be over because I trusted them
  • They will come back when they remember how much they loved me
  • They always came back before

Then you wait, every time the cell bings you jump because it might be them. You even begin to rationalize and role play in your mind what you will say when they call, only the scenario you play out in your mind is the one where you are the leaver and you are strong. Because let’s face it; in your imagination you believe they love you.

The worse is when the end came without a good-bye. No explanation. No blow out argument. Just a ghosting. It’s as if they fell off the face of the earth. All of a sudden they do not answer your calls or text. It’s confusing, should you be angry or concerned? Do you move on? But, what if…

  • They got hit by a bus and are in a coma and they need you?
  • What if they were just diagnosed with a terminal illness and they are sparing you the grief of watching them die, they want you to continue to live and be happy; so they are sacrificing themselves for you
  • What if there is some freak disconnection between your phones and they have been trying to contact you and you didn’t even know it?

What if? What if? What if?

JUST STOP IT!

You want the truth? Here is the truth and you may want to write this down and keep it in your pocket for when you need the reminder. Re-read it until you are strong enough to just move on…

They are not the one!

Remember when you prayed for God to send you the right one? Remember the vision God gave you and the purpose He has for you? Well, that person was not the one.

And that’s OK. Really, it is OK and you will be OK.

Please stop wasting your time and energy on asking why. In the grand picture it really doesn’t matter why.

This is what matters…

Trust in and rely confidently on the Lord with all your heart
And do not rely on your own insight or understanding.
In all your ways know and acknowledge and recognize Him,
And He will make your paths straight and smooth [removing obstacles that block your way]. Proverbs 3:5-6

Because…

“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you [from captivity];
I have called you by name; you are Mine! Isaiah 43 (click here)

Knowing how precious you are to God, do you not also know He will protect you? He will remove every obstacle, every derailment, and every hindrance? You have a purpose and your purpose is to glorify Him. So, when you live an obedient life to Christ, when you ask Him to remove all that is not of Him, when you truly want to fulfill your divine destiny ordained by Him Who called you, then you must let go.

If someone wants to walk away from you, then let them!

It doesn’t mean you did something wrong or could have done something different. It doesn’t even mean there is something wrong with them. It just means God has a plan for your life and that person is just not a part of it.

 

 

 

Temporary Relapse

Uh-oh… had a bad lil’ while today. I did something I shouldn’t have and it only upset me. As you can tell by my earlier post. I looked when I shouldn’t have and I saw what I didn’t want to. So, of course my emotions started to roll like a violent storm in the ocean.

But thank You, God. He didn’t let me get too carried away. He gave me a nudge and reminded He is still here. Then I remembered what He showed me just the other day. Oh how quickly I forget, huh?

There is no way I can grasp what He has for me if I wont release my disappointment, my grief, my failure, into His hand.

If God does not beat me up with my past, then why do I do it to myself? Why would I not want to let go of someone who has walked away from me? Especially knowing my Jesus would never walk away from me.

So, most days now are better and that is good. I still have those moments.

Holy Spirit, remind me, when I go to look for him, remind me to seek You. Help me to forgive him and to release him.

I am tired of hearing myself whine about him. Geesh, I hope I am not boring you to tears. If you pray to Jesus, please pray for me. My heart still hurts. I put a smile on my face, but my heart still hurts.

Tomorrow is a new day. Thank You, God, that Your mercies are new every morning.