I remember Christmas mornings and birthdays when my children were little. I would buy them a special gift, wrap it real pretty, excited to watch them open it, and they would be more excited about the pretty wrapping paper and bows.
We can be like that sometimes. Someone walks into our lives wearing a nice package and we get so excited about the wrapping, we do not consider what is inside. Have you ever felt like after the glitter of the package has worn off, you realize it was really a Pandora’s Box?
Christian women (or men) want Christian men (or women) and when we meet someone who knows the word, speaks the word, and proclaims they have a heart for God; we get so focused on the shiny stuff, we do not pause to even see if it is real. We overlook all the warning signs, the redflags, because we doubt ourselves, “I mean, he knows the word, after all.” Then you start feeling that sinking feeling in your belly when you begin to see the real person.
You can blame it on “he is just having a bad day, or two, or 30.” But you must be very careful to not throw reasoning out the window.
It is not enough for a person to know the word… shew, even the devil knows the word. We must learn to discern.
There is a small plant outside of my mothers house. It is a stray plant, right beside her porch.
My daughter said, “This looks like a tomato plant.”
I said, “Nah, it’s just a weed.”
Sure enough, my daughter was right. It was a tomato plant. She was able to discern it was a tomato plant by the leaves. Me? Well, I assumed it wasn’t where it should be and must be a weed.
A tomato plant produces tomatoes, tasty tomatoes. A weed… well that’s just a lawn killer. I learned something from my daughter, she knew what to look for. I didn’t.
So, how do we know if he/she is the real deal?
Galatians 5 tells us to look for the fruit they are producing, But the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence). Against such things there is no law [that can bring a charge].
Don’t get caught up in the packaging. Take your time and watch and see.