So… you really think you know him, huh?
“It’s amazing!” You say? “It is almost like he knows my thoughts. We have so many interests in common. I can relate to him. He makes me smile. I think he could be the one.”
The beginning of relationships goes like that. doesn’t it? Everyone is on their best behavior, dressed to impress, and even the worse stories leave them in a better light.
Pay close attention, my friend. Sure he/she looks good. Sure they have all the right answers. They may even know the Bible like the back of their hand. But look past all of that, pay attention. Do you get a lil’ nudge? Maybe something just doesn’t sound quite right? Or feel quite right? Or maybe he/she sounds a lil’ too perfect?
Chances are, if it seems too good to be true, it probably is.
So, how do we know if they are the real deal? It is quite simple really. Hold them to the spot light, the spotlight is the Word of God….
Galatians 5:22-23 tells us what to look for in a person who claims to be a Christian…. the fruit of the [Holy] Spirit [the work which His presence within accomplishes] is love, joy (gladness), peace, patience (an even temper, forbearance), kindness, goodness (benevolence), faithfulness, Gentleness (meekness, humility), self-control (self-restraint, continence). Against such things there is no law [that can bring a charge].
So… if they say “I love you!” but they don’t express love in every other area in their lives, then guess what… they don’t have love. Are they patient? I mean really? When things aren’t going their way do they press? Do they have self control? Honestly? Are they easy to tell you exactly what is on their mind about how you are wrong, or slow, or talk too much, or they don’t like the sound of your laughter? How do they treat others? Do they speak and live peace? Are they honest? Do they bad mouth and blame other people? Do they accept responsibility? Can they apologize when they are wrong? Can they forgive when others have wronged them?
Save yourself the heartache, if the man/woman doesn’t pass the fruit of the Spirit test, RUN!
Because the world has no shortage on players, pretenders, haters, manipulators… A.K.A. WOLVES in sheep’s clothing.
Sure he/she looks and sounds nice, but remove the shiny glitter and you will find rusted flesh that has no end and no shame.
There is something most wolves have in common, and when you have met your share of them you will begin to recognize them. Do not ignore the redflag. If they start to sound familiar and you think…”Hmmm… I heard this before from someone else (or a version of it)” Chances are this person is from the same wolf family.
God does not want us to be ignorant. When He saves us from one relationship from… oh, how should I say it?….hell, it is not so you can run around the corner and get back through another relationship.
My goodness, you were created for excellence. You were created with purpose. You will not find your purpose when you are in the middle of someone’s dart board while they are throwing the darts of lies, deception, abuse, misuse, at you and calling it love. That’s not love!
Love doesn’t leave you wounded. Love brings healing. Love doesn’t bring fear, it brings comfort. Love is honest.
If you want to know how they feel about you? Watch what they do. Trust your gut and respect yourself enough to say “Buh-bye” and get out!
Remember Who you belong to. You belong to God. You are His. Do not give away, throw away, what He has bought with His blood. He has a better more excellent plan for you.
So, repeat after me…
“Buh-Bye, I love Jesus and my soul too much to get entangled with you!”
There are too many of Gods people falling pray to relationships that will destroy the soul. Do not be a casualty. Know Who He is and who you are. If you find yourself in the middle of a relationship you know you should not be in, leave. I know it is not easy. But, trust me when I say, God has a better plan for you.